So you’d like to role play…. The first order of business is to find a partner and agree on the scenario. There are a few ways to meet a potential playmate – you can talk with people in the chat room or you can post a request in the Role Play forum. Ideally, you will have some idea of what you are looking for, or willing to play along with. Details, kinks and limits should be listed or discussed up front, especially when first getting to know another member. Examples of good and “bad” request posts are listed as examples:
Title- “Disneyland RP request”
Body- “I’m a college senior, you’re a shy wife and mother. We never would have met if the people-mover hadn’t broken down and stranded us in the air, together, over Disneyland. Your husband and kids left you alone, went on rides without you, teaching me how to fuck is your vacation!
Kinks- Age Gap, MILF, Mommy-Domme, Adultery, Outdoors, nipple-play.
Limits- Anal, falling, bodily fluids.
Title- Looking for female RP partner.
Body- I have a fantasy about sex at Disneyland, DM me for details.
Nobody wants to strip naked and walk blindly into a room with no idea what’s going to happen. Lay out a detailed fantasy. If parts are negotiable, indicate that. Don’t say “looking for a woman to be raped in a casino” say “I spent weeks before the robbery casing the place, watching you. The casual grace of your hands, the easy humor of your smile. I walked into the room as fixated on you as I was on the money…”
If your prompt isn’t getting results, consider rewriting it, adding detail, refining it. It’s counterintuitive, because you’d think that a broader prompt would reach a broader audience, but that just isn’t so. If you publish a prompt about raping someone during a generic robbery, you get crickets, but if you specify a casino robbery, you get…. “Could you see robbing a pet store? That’s where I work and I have this fantasy…”
Narrow it down. You’ll get more and better answers. That being said, please limit yourself to one RP request post or “bump” per month. Ideally have one post where all of your ideas are listed, and modify/update as required. Don’t get frustrated if you fall out of negotiations with a couple people. That happens. It’s not a bad thing, just part of the process.
In your initial discussion with a potential playmate, include how often you plan to respond, and give general guidelines for how often you like to see responses. Are you someone who cranks out responses within a few hours and would like to see the same from your partner, or are you someone who can sometimes be days writing a response? All are acceptable, but it’s a good idea to get an expectation set up, so that one or more parties don’t get disappointed and bored waiting for a response.
Include where you’d like to RP, whether it be chat, in public on the boards, or in PM/DM/Private Discussion (if both parties agree, the DM RP can be moved to the boards by an administrator once completed).
Keep a separate PM thread with your partner to discuss things that didn’t come up in the initial discussion of the RP. This can be messages as simple as “Hey, can you ease up on the slapping, please?” or “hey, it’d be really hot if…..”
It’s considerate to let your partner know if you won’t be able to post for a while (if you have RL stuff going on and can’t make it to the boards, going on vacation, sick, or need a break, any number of things can cause someone to have to stop posting on an RP) or if you’ve lost interest, and not just ghost them and leave them waiting forever on a reply. (this is also why it’s good to have a separate DM thread, for messages like “I’m going to have family around and won’t be able to post for the next week” or “Hey, I’m sorry, this just isn’t doing it for me any more, can we try something else?” or similar)
RPs happen in chat all the time. If you find yourself in chat and want to play with someone, ask them first. Negotiate a play. Between long-time partners, this can be as simple as “hey, you up for a quick blackmail scene?” or similar, but always ask. Sometimes people just want to go into chat to do just that: chat! And, that’s okay. Be respectful of their wishes and maybe they will want to play with you another time.
If you happen across an RP that’s already in progress in chat, and you want to join, please ask! Send a DM to the players involved, asking if it would be alright if you joined in. Then, if they consent to you joining in the fun, read back into the chat (you may need to click “previously”) and catch up on what’s going on currently in the scene.
Another tool to use is a “Kink List”. Make one for yourself and see if your potential partner has one listed. This will guide both parties to a mutually satisfactory scenario, and helps avoid crossing any limits.
Whether conducted on the forum or in chat, the purpose is for both parties to have a good time. Try to ensure that your partner is getting what they want, don’t just focus on yourself – this is key to keeping your partners around and happy to play with you.
Summary – Post an RP request, post a kinks list, negotiate a scene, keep communication open.
Special thanks to Pinkwarkitten14 and Tinman for their contributions to this guide. This post is being left open for further suggestions and comments from our members 😊