Nope. Not a freak. Well, maybe between the sheets. 😉
There are lots of things that influence orgasm like you said. I can sometimes get off on how much my partner is enjoying sex as much as how much I am. I will admit that I need more attention most times then just insert tab A into slot B to really make things click, but again, if it’s the right time, maybe if I’ve been thinking about sex a lot before, then that works fine. Honestly everyone has different wants/needs likes etc. Talk. Use your tongue for more than licking, though do that to. Women have rhythms. Find your partners rhythm. Learn their bodies. Learn their fantasies. Talk. Hard. Let them know how desirable they are. Let them know your in control, or that they are in control. Be rough. Be gentle. Taste them. Inhale their scent. Claim them and give yourself to them.
All these things mean slightly different things to everyone. Find what works and expand on that. Then try to colour outside the lines a bit for variety. Too many couples have meh sex. Meh sex is still okay, I mean its still enjoyable, and sometimes meh is the best you can do because life gets in the way, but aim higher. Enjoy your partner and let them know it. Let your partner enjoy you. That’s the whole point of the being naked thing. Movie sex only happens every now and then but regular sex can be good. Better than good. People know when something is missing or lackluster but they don’t always say. So use that tongue. 😉